Most people I know consider >Beginnings< to be very important and try to stay away of >Endings< as good as possible. This idea is rooted deeply into our society. We love births, but we tabu the death. We celebrate a wedding, but the only person we celebrate the breakup with, is our therapist. We love arriving, but going away is sad. We even love to make our dishes dirty, but the cleaning has do be done by a machine. We make it into a lifelong habit to open cicles, but we never really learn how to close them, or even understand why we should.
“In the Kamigata area they had a sort of tiered lunchbox they used for a single day when flower viewing. Upon returning they throw them away, trampling them underfoot. The end is important in all things.” [Hagakure]
The end is important in all things. I like that.
When we start a relationship with a new partner, all we want to see is the happiness, the joy and the butterflies in the belly. Only when we use our training to actually look beyond the time that will pass, way up to the end, we will also see the pain and the tears. It’s right there from the start. There is no winning without loosing. Ever. Everything is of a nature to change. It is what in Buddhism is known as the very core of >Samsara<.
Ajahn Brahm (from a dhamma talk): “This is the play of samsara (the perpetual wandering from life to life), the play of night and day, the play of warmth and cold. It is the basic duality of experience. There is no escape from that in this realm or in any other realm. It will always follow you around, this duality of experience.”
Or even shorter:
The buddhist genesis starts with the words: “There comes a time when the world ends.”